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Newborn in bed means sex is out?

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This post on CNN would have been hilarious, had it not been written in the serious tone that it was (the headline made my naughty mind immediately think of aMénage à trois” kind of situation). It is indeed tough to think of romance if baby dear sleeps on the same bed as husband and wife, but it is a kind of sacrifice the couple will have to make if they want to avoid crib-related problems like SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) and other issues.

There are many cultures around the world, where there is no concept of a separate crib for the baby and most of the time the baby sleeps with the mother on the same bed. I think it has also got something to do with the natural warmness of the mother’s body that the baby had gotten used to while inside and which it wants to continue on the outside.

You see, parenting is all about adjustments, compromises and sacrifices and if sex is something that will have to be put on the back-burner or reserved for stolen moments, however fleeting, for the sake of a child, then it is tough luck, but has to be gone through regardless. After all, there are millions of people out there, battling ticking biological clocks and having other problems preventing them from having a baby, who would gladly trade a year of post-delivery abstinence, if only they could  become mothers (and fathers).



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June 8, 2009 at 5:53 pm

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Power Mom’s New Title – “CEO of Household”

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Being a technophile myself, I could not but help relate to this article on “Power Moms” and the results of the Nielsen Online study on this demographic. What I particularly liked in that article was a term that I saw for the first time to define a Power Mom as “CEO of Household”. That I think perfectly captures the multifarious duties that mothers running households perform and the fact that these are thank-less and pay-less jobs masquerading as mere “chores”.

More women are tech-savvy these days and technology has, to a large extent eased the job of running a household. Social Networking – MySpace, Facebook, Twitter, Blogs – have drawn mothers in huge numbers. Moms are all over the place and are able to share helpful parenting tips, recipes, experiences and generally bond with other mothers and mothers-to-be. All I can say is “More Power to Them”.

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May 21, 2009 at 5:34 pm

Mothers’ talk is key to kids’ social skills

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A new study points to how mothers’ talking to their kids at a young age influences the development of their social skills later in childhood – “The communication of empathy is just about the most important thing you can do,” said Nancy Weisman, a psychologist in Marietta, Georgia, who was not involved with the study. “Every single moment of the day, you have situations in which you can teach this.”

I agree with the above statement since in these times of worldwide economic turmoil, terrorism, uncertainty, eroding civility and the breakdown of the traditional family system, “empathy” is one important quality that children can imbibe, which will prove to be a valuable social “survival skill”. At the root of many political, social and economic problems is a lack of empathy – an inability to see something from another’s point of view. And who better to teach that from childhood than one’s mother?

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May 19, 2009 at 3:25 pm

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Will moms learn to let go?

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In a must-read article on gender equality when it comes to parenting, USA Today’s Sharon Jayson writes about how the equation is changing when it comes to child care roles played increasingly by both the father and the mother and also how mothers will have to learn to let go when patterns emerge, that are at odds with traditional stereotypes and expectations in raising kids.

I was raised in a home where both parents worked, but many of the household chores still ended up getting done only by my mother. In a way, I could classify my generation as the “straddlers”, since we lived in two worlds simultaneously – one traditional, with its roots in the historical legacy of work-division between the sexes, and the other modern, where women also became bread-winners,  yet could not shake off the roles that were expected of them in the family. Today, the wheels of change have driven the final nail in the coffin of the social and economic disparity that existed between men and women and this has led to a new generational awareness of parity in sharing the duties of the family. And that is indeed a welcome change!

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May 14, 2009 at 6:24 pm

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