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Managing work and pregnancy

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There is an excellent article posted at The Journal Record that discusses the pitfalls and perks of running a small business while being pregnant.

A lot of mothers-to-be who also happen to be working women have this question on whether they should work while they are pregnant or take a well-deserved break (both before delivery and after). I am of the opinion that a woman does not have to take a break from work just because she is carrying a child. My mother was working until the last day of her pregnancy and she used to humorously say that my birth was an accident, actually, due to an accident.

It seems the doctor advised her that the due date was near but she continued to work and on that fateful day (the day I was born :-)), when she was returning from work by the regular bus that she used to go home, the driver had to suddenly apply the brakes due to some problem while driving and this flung my mother who was seated in the last row, to the front of the bus. Immediately she went into labor and within a few hours, I came into this world.

Anyway, my point about women not needing to give up their work is based on many factors. In some families, two incomes are really needed and so even if the woman wanted to take a break, she really can’t. Also anyone who has put in sufficient time in an organization becomes a valuable resource and if a woman were to give up her job solely due to her pregnancy, a productive member is removed from the labor pool, which has ramifications both for the company and for the broader economy and society. Again, work is sometimes a self-fulfilling thing for many women and helps define who they are. Without it, they may get into a depression, what with the morning-sickness and other hormonal imbalances not helping with their mood swings.

Pregnancy is such a routine thing that there is no need for an “extended break” before the child is born, although post-delivery, the new mother certainly has a need to take time off from work to attend on her new-born. With many maternity-friendly employers these days and many women already doing work that can be done from home using computers and telecommunications, a woman can certainly manage her work during pregnancy.

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May 28, 2009 at 5:42 pm

Baby or Bust – In Vitro Fertilization

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Brandi & Shelton Koskie, on the Baby or Bust site, are “one of the many couples going through the long In Vitro Fertilization journey so that they can start their family” and due to the “significant cost”, they are asking each visitor to their site to donate just $1 so that if 20,000 people do so, they will have the funds they need to have their first baby.

I don’t know how many such couples are out there who are holding out hope for their first baby but have to resort to IVF and other such medically-assisted methods of getting pregnant. Even that is not half as bad as not having the funds to do it, like in the above case. Now, that is seriously a double-whammy and I hope they get all the help they can muster through such online efforts.

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May 25, 2009 at 5:28 pm

Dad-to-be and Sympathetic Pregnancy

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Do you know what is the “couvade” syndrome? I didn’t know anything about it until I saw this article in FertileFoods.com, run by nutrition consultant Kathryn Flynn. It talks about men going through the same pregnancy symptoms as their pregnant wives. I personally think that it is great if a man’s empathy for his pregnant wife’s condition is to such an extent that he “literally” feels her pain and all her symptoms. Perhaps such men are few and rare, but truly remarkable.

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May 25, 2009 at 5:11 pm

The Life of a Surrogate Mother

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As I was browsing the fascinating world of mommy blogs, I came across this interesting blog of a “surrogate mother”. Now, this issue of surrogacy in motherhood is not without its share of controversies. Conception, pregnancy, childbirth – these are not just biological processes of nature but carry with them deep emotional and psychological hooks for a woman and therein lies the problem when some of these processes have to be “outsourced”.

While advances in medical sciences have made it possible for couples to have “biological children”, even if the woman is incapable of “natural conception” and/or child-bearing, still from a societal standpoint, there is a lot of stigma attached to it. Only when more such cases become commonplace and stop being “news”, will there be greater acceptance of this concept.

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May 19, 2009 at 5:10 pm

If you are a vegetarian and pregnant

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A lot of expectant mothers who are vegetarians by choice or by religious belief or by their concern for animals, the environment, world food supply etc. have a nagging doubt at the back of their minds as to whether they are getting all the nutrition they need, both for themselves and for the babies they are carrying in their wombs. I found this link particularly useful from that standpoint (registration required – free).

It is a well-known fact that vegetarians (or even vegans) are a minority and the majority of the people in the world are meat-eaters. So, most physicians are likely to tell an expectant mother that she may not get all the nutrition required during pregnancy by just sticking to a vegetarian diet. I disagree with this majority-held view and have personally seen the beneficial effects of sticking to a healthy and balanced vegetarian diet. So, if you are a vegetarian and you are pregnant, read up on all the literature available on the subject on the net and you will get all the reassurances you’ll need.

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May 18, 2009 at 7:11 pm

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How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby (without the bias)

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Ok, I think I had gone somewhat ballistic in a previous post regarding what I thought was an expectant mother’s gender bias, but let us say you wanted to choose the sex of your child – how would you go about it? Do you know about the “Shettles Method”?

Well, I didn’t know of it until now, when I chanced upon this Amazon book’s link on this blogpost, as I was researching blogs on bringing up babies in an organic and toxic-material free environment. To set the record straight, I am all for someone exercising a choice in whether they would like a baby boy or a baby girl, but I am certainly peeved at any bias against a particular gender (invariably the female of the species). With mismatched sex ratios in many countries, we could have a real catastrophe on our hands by favoring any particular sex in the babies we produce by the second.

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May 18, 2009 at 6:41 pm

Do you know what is “The Paleo Pregnancy?”

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Stephanie Raffelock, in this excellent post on the WellPostpartum blog, talks about the ideal kind of diet for pregnant women, particularly referring to the Paleo diet which “refers back to Paleo times when human beings were hunter/gatherers and lived on diets of protein, vegetables and moderate amounts of seasonal fruit.”

The best part of following this diet is that it takes us back to that basic household task – cooking, something that is being increasingly neglected in many homes in favor of eating out. I find cooking to be a cathartic experience and one that helps me actually focus better, that way keeping my worries at bay, at least temporarily. Anyway, the article made for good reading.

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May 13, 2009 at 3:57 pm

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