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The Life of a Surrogate Mother

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As I was browsing the fascinating world of mommy blogs, I came across this interesting blog of a “surrogate mother”. Now, this issue of surrogacy in motherhood is not without its share of controversies. Conception, pregnancy, childbirth – these are not just biological processes of nature but carry with them deep emotional and psychological hooks for a woman and therein lies the problem when some of these processes have to be “outsourced”.

While advances in medical sciences have made it possible for couples to have “biological children”, even if the woman is incapable of “natural conception” and/or child-bearing, still from a societal standpoint, there is a lot of stigma attached to it. Only when more such cases become commonplace and stop being “news”, will there be greater acceptance of this concept.


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May 19, 2009 at 5:10 pm

Mothers’ talk is key to kids’ social skills

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A new study points to how mothers’ talking to their kids at a young age influences the development of their social skills later in childhood – “The communication of empathy is just about the most important thing you can do,” said Nancy Weisman, a psychologist in Marietta, Georgia, who was not involved with the study. “Every single moment of the day, you have situations in which you can teach this.”

I agree with the above statement since in these times of worldwide economic turmoil, terrorism, uncertainty, eroding civility and the breakdown of the traditional family system, “empathy” is one important quality that children can imbibe, which will prove to be a valuable social “survival skill”. At the root of many political, social and economic problems is a lack of empathy – an inability to see something from another’s point of view. And who better to teach that from childhood than one’s mother?

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May 19, 2009 at 3:25 pm

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If you are a vegetarian and pregnant

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A lot of expectant mothers who are vegetarians by choice or by religious belief or by their concern for animals, the environment, world food supply etc. have a nagging doubt at the back of their minds as to whether they are getting all the nutrition they need, both for themselves and for the babies they are carrying in their wombs. I found this link particularly useful from that standpoint (registration required – free).

It is a well-known fact that vegetarians (or even vegans) are a minority and the majority of the people in the world are meat-eaters. So, most physicians are likely to tell an expectant mother that she may not get all the nutrition required during pregnancy by just sticking to a vegetarian diet. I disagree with this majority-held view and have personally seen the beneficial effects of sticking to a healthy and balanced vegetarian diet. So, if you are a vegetarian and you are pregnant, read up on all the literature available on the subject on the net and you will get all the reassurances you’ll need.

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May 18, 2009 at 7:11 pm

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How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby (without the bias)

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Ok, I think I had gone somewhat ballistic in a previous post regarding what I thought was an expectant mother’s gender bias, but let us say you wanted to choose the sex of your child – how would you go about it? Do you know about the “Shettles Method”?

Well, I didn’t know of it until now, when I chanced upon this Amazon book’s link on this blogpost, as I was researching blogs on bringing up babies in an organic and toxic-material free environment. To set the record straight, I am all for someone exercising a choice in whether they would like a baby boy or a baby girl, but I am certainly peeved at any bias against a particular gender (invariably the female of the species). With mismatched sex ratios in many countries, we could have a real catastrophe on our hands by favoring any particular sex in the babies we produce by the second.

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May 18, 2009 at 6:41 pm

Baby Food Recipes

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Kellene Bishop is passionate about “emergency preparedness” and is an experienced speaker and demonstrator on that topic. In this post, she gives a few recipes, but most importantly talks about how baby food can be prepared without having to use electricity.

I like the idea that you need not be left scrambling in the event of a disaster, if you prepared for it by developing basic survival instincts and kits. As a civilization, we have moved so far away from natural living, which is based on the principles of minimalism and have come to depend heavily on a variety of creature comforts, that, if they were to be denied to us suddenly, would cause massive withdrawal symptoms in almost all of us. It is good to know that people like Kellene are able to think of alternative ways of living, by preparing for and expecting the unexpected.

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May 15, 2009 at 6:59 pm

The Saturday Morning Date

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The best thing about reading “mommy blogs” is that I get to understand a variety of perspectives about the state of motherhood and I just did when I chanced upon Barbara (“CookieMom”) Reininger’s post on “the Saturday Morning Date”. Let me not do a “spoiler ahead” and let me allow you to have the pleasure of reading all about it yourself.

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May 15, 2009 at 6:35 pm

A Mother’s Dilemma – What else could she have done?

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I read this story somewhere and don’t remember where, but it has been etched in my memory forever. In the days of British India, a mother with her two young children went on a river trip on a small rowboat on the Ganges, where there are a lot of crocodiles. The older child kept playing with his one hand in the water as the boat was cruising the river, even as the mother was holding on to the other hand so that he would not fall into the water.

Suddenly the child cried as his hand in the water was gripped by the powerful jaws of a crocodile. The crocodile tried pulling the child into the water even as the frightened mother fought bravely by pulling his other hand, to keep him from tipping over into the river. This tug-of-war went on for what seemed like an eternity although it probably lasted just under a minute, with the mother growing weary physically but not giving up her spirited fight to save her child.

The boatman shouted at the mother asking her to let go of the child as the struggle would have ended up toppling the boat, thus throwing all of them into the river and into the mouths of several hungry crocodiles that were now swarming the boat. Realization quickly dawned on the mother that she might end up losing both her children and with an anguished cry, she let go of the child, which was then dragged by the crocodile into the river.

When I read this story, I could not even imagine being in that situation where I had to make such a tough choice. What could she have done in any case? This is a question for which I have not been able to find an answer so far.

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May 14, 2009 at 7:20 pm